I am taking a continuing education class called "Conscious Discipline". It is fantastic. I am getting so much out of it. One of its foundational principles is that discipline is ultimately about the state of the discipliner. Also that how we react to things depends on where in the brain we are reacting from...frontal lobe (rational, reasoning) vs limbic system (emotional) vs brain stem (impulse, survival). How I react to what is happening around me is less about the situation and more about what state I am in/what part of the brain is reacting. For much of my life I was all about the emotional reaction (WHAT??? me? I do not overreact!! I do NOT!) and over the course of time, I have become much better at taking the emotion out of situations (usually, not always). That is so much more productive, let me just say. I have learned so much by watching how Jack reacts to things. My father was the same way.
Anyway, today's class was about encouragement. Pretty powerful and interesting and all about encouraging vs judging. This quote was on the board as the class started and it totally spoke to me:
"Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you".
Wow.
And we watched this very powerful video. All about being encouraging and the function of behaviors. Check it out if you have about 10 minutes to watch.
http://youtu.be/RXJGcqcJckA
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